In speaking to individuals about happiness and good habits, individuals generally discuss “laziness.” Both they are saying, “I’m lazy” or they are saying, “That individual is being lazy.”
However I believe it’s unhelpful to consider “laziness.”
It appears to me that when individuals (together with ourselves) seem lazy, there are extra useful explanations. In my statement, different issues could also be occurring:
Avoidance: There’s one thing that an individual ought to do, however they’re avoiding it. This individual ought to work, however is avoiding doing powerful evaluation, so is spending hours watching Recreation of Thrones clips on YouTube. That individual ought to go to remedy, however doesn’t wish to face adverse emotions, so retains canceling appointments.
Accountability: In my “4 Tendencies” character framework, Obligers are individuals who want outer accountability to fulfill inside expectations. In the event that they wish to train, they want to enroll in a category, work out with a coach, elevate cash for a charity, be a task mannequin for another person, and so on. (Efficient accountability methods fluctuate amongst Obligers.) If Obligers lack outer accountability, they gained’t comply with by way of. This may seem like laziness, however as quickly as accountability is established, Obligers do comply with by way of.
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Exhaustion: Typically individuals get drained and overwhelmed, and so they merely can’t muster up the vitality to do something—not even one thing small, not even one thing enjoyable. So they only do no matter exercise that feels least taxing to them—as an illustration, scroll by way of social media, watch TV, or play a video-game.
Choice: One individual’s laziness is one other individual’s selection. A buddy stated of his son, “He’s so lazy. He might be out taking part in basketball along with his buddies, however as a substitute, he lies on the couch, simply studying.” I additionally think about one other mother or father saying of a kid, “He’s so lazy. He might be studying and bettering his thoughts, and as a substitute, he’s simply operating round along with his buddies.”
As at all times, after we face a happiness stumbling block, it’s helpful to determine the issue. For those who’re calling your self “lazy,” what’s occurring?
Do it is advisable to discover a technique to get began, to get accountability, or to get extra relaxation? Or is that “laziness” really an indication that two individuals have totally different values?
For those who’ve referred to as your self lazy, or end up saying that different persons are being lazy, I’d be curious to know the context.